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Are you making this serious mistake? Top 6 reasons why money can’t replace family time.

These days, money has been so important for all of us because for everything you need money. Food, Clothing and shelter, which has been our basic needs for mankind all has to be purchased, including to go out at a distance you need money (car, public transport, fuel, etc), unlike the days where humans had no exchange currency. Read ahead for the top 6 reasons why money can't be a substitute to family or relations.

A balance is important to manage both money and family relations. But where does a person draw a line? How much money is enough money? Does it fear you to have no sufficient money for future? Or are you obsessed with money and keep collecting it?

Often I come across a lot of clients, who have relationship problems, most of the problems are with a reason: earning lot of money but not able to give enough time to near and dear ones.

Money and time with family might be both essential to our well-being, but if asked to choose what to be put first, that one is just too hard to answer.

Let’s do a SELF INTROSPECTION; here is a list of questions you can ask yourself for understanding yourself better.

 Are you:

1.      Working parent/spouse and have no time to spend with your loved ones?

2.      Feeling that you are taking care of your loved ones by giving gifts by - money or material things?

3.      Not giving time, but replacing with giving comforts to your family?

4.      Neither physically present nor able to communicate with your loved ones regularly?

 

Yeah, is that what your mind answered? Then, you fall in this category of substituting money with time.

I feel sorry to say, the relations will have a long term effect, draining energies and built up aggression, if continued to be the same.

While I do not totally disagree; money does help keep families together, because you can go for vacations, dining, socialize, luxurious lifestyle etc, but again, pointing it out, each of the listed events need family or near and dear ones!

If you don't pay enough attention to money it can lower your quality of life, but if you pay too much attention to money it can damage your relationship with your family because you lose out on time and connections with them.

Hmmm.. tough to draw a line..

Let’s take up the top 6 reasons why money can’t replace family time.

1.      Can’t talk or respond 

        Money can’t talk or soothe like your family members. Imagine you are from a rich family and you are upset, someone comes across and gives you money, will that help you come out of upset feeling?

2.      Gives temporary happiness

    Money can give you happiness to some extent for some days, as you achieve your desires. But we all are aware, wants are unlimited. You fulfill one desire and the next is on your list. It can never give you lasting happiness. When you spend time with family you can create memories, which is going to give you more togetherness and love.

3.      Can’t buy relations 

        With money you can buy every material thing in the world, but you wont be able to buy relations. Imagine having lots of money but no family, how does that make you feel? Would you feel happy earning loads of money at the cost of losing family relations? Is it worth it?

4.      Can’t give you security

        While a lot of people may disagree to this point, that money can give security, but think of this, you have all the money kept as a security for your future and holding on the money in your bank account and suddenly, due to some natural calamity, the bank in which your funds were kept is swept away and there is no other branch or any other event where you are at a loss, how would that make you feel? All these will make you feel empty handed in seconds and totally heartbroken.

5.     Can’t help you in terminal diseases or life limiting illness

        You work so hard, giving up your family time to earn money and save a lot of money for your future, medicals and treatments, thinking if anything happens to you, there is money that can help you to recover and get you the life again. Is that true, ask yourself again? God has all the number of breath planned in your life depending on your karmas. You can’t escape from your duties.

6.      Makes people lazy and spoilt

        This is the last and the most important one, you slog your entire life making a palace and all the luxuries in life, giving the best to your spouse, children and parents. No one need to work further, saved tons and tons of money, what after that? I have a lot of clients who come to me, that his child, at an earning age is not yet competent to work, only friends and socials, spouse is obese or depressed, etc. What could be the reason? Simple that the money has given them the false-ego, this is difficult to dissolve on its own. Work or any activity becomes such a stressful task for them, where even a simple task they are unable to cope up effectively.

Hmm.. a lot to think about!

It’s very important to balance earning money and family time so that you do not regret later in life. Allow time to work, but also give enough time to your family to know each other, understand each other, support within the family. Don’t ruthlessly keep earning and lose out on the best days of your life. Each day is special and unique, the same day won’t return, neither the age.

Cherish family events with your family members, celebrate important days with them, birthdays, anniversaries, social events, etc.

Life is short to waste on material things which are temporary. Create memories that can stay with you and also with them. Spread love, happiness, joy, smiles, and so many beautiful things around us that makes each and every moment special.

Don’t forget, we are a human species and that’s all we just exist in this beautiful Earth. Any disaster or development by the higher Authority, God, can make you disappear in a second. You may not be able to say a good bye to anyone.

Be humble!

Do you find it difficult to face tough situations? My Personal Secret Technique revealed, try it!!!

It’s so wonderful when everything happens as planned. You feel comfortable, relaxed, happy, fulfilled, etc.

However, not all days go as planned. It can be very good days when you can handle everything easily at work, home, socials, etc or, on the other hand, some days are tough to handle. Ouch! I can feel both versions instantly.

Ups and downs are a part of life, but how many can accept it completely and blissfully handle both these versions?

A SHORT STORY OF MY LIFE:

Let me share a small story. While I used to go to work, there were few days when I woke up late and I would rush to dress up, pick up my handbag and car keys, driving to work, without a proper morning routine. Since I was late, I couldn’t make anything for my lunch and thought I could have something nearby my workplace. I reached timely, as happy and calm I could be to not be late at work, feeling relaxed I started doing my regular work routine at my desk. At first I thought I missed the bus, I would be late and a late remark, I am on the top most position where I can’t be late, others would follow and so on my imagination. This is when, I can relate to the mind rushing in future, the fear of unknown, which I understood after studying psychology. Then, there came the lunch time, I was totally excited to eat outside food, like always (BTW… I am a foodie) I ordered for good food from a nearby restaurant. I put my hand in my handbag, and I realized I had forgotten my wallet with money at home, gosh, how could I be so careless? Facing such a situation, it was so embarrassing to ask from someone at that time. PANIC!!! But then, I got a second thought, I always kept some loose small cash in my bag as a backup. Thank fully I could manage for that day.

What do we learn from this situation?

1.       Good morning routine helps prepare yourself for the day

2.       Be calm in any situation so that you allow your brain to function properly.

3.       Always have a back-up – Contingency planning

4.       Don’t be afraid to ask for help, it’s human (Which I am still working on.. So let’s work it out together)

5.       Be present as I always mention in most of my articles!

6.       Be independent (so you know how to do contingency planning)

MAJOR EVENTS??? O_o

This was just a minor event, which happens with most of us and we can handle it easily by some way or the other. But what happens when you have a deeper situation, for which your brain doesn’t have enough resources to handle it appropriately, leave alone back up plan.

HOW DOES A PARTICULAR EVENT BECOME MAJOR IN OUR LIFE?

Let’s see, how our brain works. When you (Person 1) get used to a person (2), you (P1) tend to get comfortable and relaxed, because your (P1) brain assumes to have understood the other person’s (P2) scheme of working. If any interruption enters in between these two persons, say, P2 denies for something requested by P1, which the P1 is confident about P2 is definitely going to accept it (no back up); then the emotions gets imbalanced and the problem arises. Because you never thought of the other side and your mind couldn’t evaluate on how to react. This creates an Instant reaction which may or may not be favorable. This majorly happens due to ATTACHMENT.

THE YEAR 2020:

Like, in this year 2020, Corona Virus has forced humans to change plans without any back up. So many people have suffered, given up their lives, living in a condition which they never even could imagine.

MY SECRET TECHNIQUE: STEP-BY-STEP:

To cope up such situations in life, I have listed a step by step technique which you could try and let me know if this works for you. I personally have tried it multiple times and it works for me in every situation.

1.       Acknowledge and accept – Most of the times we are unable to accept the situation and try to avoid confrontation. Once you acknowledge and accept it, it becomes easier and you feel lighter.

2.       Always be ready to change – with acceptance comes ideas on how to solve it, and you should be ready to change some part of yourself. Without this you can’t move ahead. If you say you can’t change or it’s not my fault, you are in denial yet, go back to Step 1.

3.       Gain more knowledge – While you understand the reactions were because you were not aware of how to react to the particular situation, you need to gain some knowledge from trusted resources like reading self-help books of experienced persons, scriptures – can be Bible, Upanishads, Bhagwad Gita, Quran, etc or e-learning for upgrading your skills, joining some practical courses, etc or visit a local counselor for help to understand better.

4.       Relate it to your Problem – check similar situations and how those people have dealt with it, since they are experienced and have tried various techniques and succeeded.

5.       Merge and create a plan to solve your problem – List down on a paper on the various ways to deal with your problem.

6.       Talk to a guru – Guru doesn’t only mean religious Guru. Guru can be anyone whom you look upto and trust that the person will show you the right path. Usually who is experienced person or a counselor or a business consultant, depends on the situation you are stuck with.

7.       Trust your decision and work towards it

8.       Back up plan – Once you have the knowledge and believe in your plan, you will find it easy to work which will further give you confidence and ideas for a back up and also expansion of your plans.

Try this out, and do share your inputs in the comments below!

SAT CHIT ANANDA