These days, money has been so important for all of us because for
everything you need money. Food, Clothing and shelter, which has been our basic
needs for mankind all has to be purchased, including to go out at a distance
you need money (car, public transport, fuel, etc), unlike the days where humans
had no exchange currency. Read ahead for the top 6 reasons why money can't be a
substitute to family or relations.
A balance is important to manage both money and family
relations. But where does a person draw a line? How much money is enough money?
Does it fear you to have no sufficient money for future? Or are you obsessed
with money and keep collecting it?
Often I come across a lot of clients, who have relationship
problems, most of the problems are with a reason: earning lot of money but not
able to give enough time to near and dear ones.
Money and time with family might be both essential to our
well-being, but if asked to choose what to be put first, that one is just too
hard to answer.
Let’s do a SELF INTROSPECTION; here is a
list of questions you can ask yourself for understanding yourself better.
Are you:
1. Working parent/spouse and have no time to spend with your loved
ones?
2.
Feeling that you are taking care of your loved ones by giving
gifts by - money or material things?
3.
Not giving time, but replacing with giving comforts to your
family?
4.
Neither physically present nor able to communicate with your
loved ones regularly?
Yeah, is that what your mind answered? Then, you fall in this
category of substituting money with time.
I feel sorry to say, the relations will have a long term effect,
draining energies and built up aggression, if continued to be the same.
While I do not totally disagree; money does help keep families
together, because you can go for vacations, dining, socialize, luxurious
lifestyle etc, but again, pointing it out, each of the listed events need
family or near and dear ones!
If you don't pay enough attention to money it can lower your
quality of life, but if you pay too much attention to money it can damage your
relationship with your family because you lose out on time and connections with
them.
Hmmm.. tough to draw a line..
Let’s take up the
top 6 reasons why money can’t replace family time.
1. Can’t talk or respond
Money can’t talk or soothe like
your family members. Imagine you are from a rich family and you are upset,
someone comes across and gives you money, will that help you come out of upset
feeling?
2. Gives temporary happiness
Money can give you happiness to
some extent for some days, as you achieve your desires. But we all are aware,
wants are unlimited. You fulfill one desire and the next is on your list. It can
never give you lasting happiness. When you spend time with family you can
create memories, which is going to give you more togetherness and love.
3. Can’t buy relations
With money you can buy every
material thing in the world, but you wont be able to buy relations. Imagine having
lots of money but no family, how does that make you feel? Would you feel happy
earning loads of money at the cost of losing family relations? Is it worth it?
4. Can’t give you security
While a lot of people may disagree
to this point, that money can give security, but think of this, you have all
the money kept as a security for your future and holding on the money in your
bank account and suddenly, due to some natural calamity, the bank in which your
funds were kept is swept away and there is no other branch or any other event
where you are at a loss, how would that make you feel? All these will make you
feel empty handed in seconds and totally heartbroken.
5. Can’t help you in terminal diseases or life limiting illness
You work so hard, giving up your family time to earn money and
save a lot of money for your future, medicals and treatments, thinking if
anything happens to you, there is money that can help you to recover and get
you the life again. Is that true, ask yourself again? God has all the number of
breath planned in your life depending on your karmas. You can’t escape from
your duties.
6. Makes people lazy and spoilt
This is the last and the most
important one, you slog your entire life making a palace and all the luxuries
in life, giving the best to your spouse, children and parents. No one need to
work further, saved tons and tons of money, what after that? I have a lot of clients
who come to me, that his child, at an earning age is not yet competent to work,
only friends and socials, spouse is obese or depressed, etc. What could be the
reason? Simple that the money has given them the false-ego, this is difficult
to dissolve on its own. Work or any activity becomes such a stressful task for them,
where even a simple task they are unable to cope up effectively.
Hmm.. a lot to think about!
It’s very important to balance earning money and family time so
that you do not regret later in life. Allow time to work, but also give enough
time to your family to know each other, understand each other, support within
the family. Don’t ruthlessly keep earning and lose out on the best days of your
life. Each day is special and unique, the same day won’t return, neither the
age.
Cherish family events with your family members, celebrate
important days with them, birthdays, anniversaries, social events, etc.
Life is short to waste on material things which are temporary.
Create memories that can stay with you and also with them. Spread love,
happiness, joy, smiles, and so many beautiful things around us that makes each
and every moment special.
Don’t forget, we are a human species and that’s all we just exist
in this beautiful Earth. Any disaster or development by the higher Authority, God,
can make you disappear in a second. You may not be able to say a good bye to
anyone.
Be humble!
