Are you Waking up Tired????

I love when I get a deep sleep! The day goes so well, when you are fresh after a fulfilling sleep. No irritation, no nitpicking, no anger, no disturbance internally, no laziness and many other positives. Wow! What a wonderful day!

But what happens when you feel you slept properly but wake up feeling tired, or feel like I want to sleep more? Gosh, it’s terrible for some.

I have a lot of clients coming to me for counseling who:

1.         Are not able to sleep

2.        Get sleep but doesn’t feel enough

3.        Unable to wake up at desired time

4.       Want to sleep entire day

5.        Slept properly but feeling tired after waking up

6.        And many more

There could be many reasons why a person feels the above and it will be different in each case. Some of the common reasons are:

1.         Stress – Stress can be caused due to an imbalance in expectations and results.

2.        Fatigue – Sometimes, excessive workload can be a cause of any of the above situations.

3.        Over-thinking – This has been a major cause of disturbed sleep. Over-thinking is when you are stuck with one thought in your head and multiplied your thoughts over it. This can lead to further another cause as below;

4.       Fear of unknown – the thoughts have gone so far in future that now, it’s difficult for your mind to accept the present and that whatever thoughts have been in mind is unmanifested, fake and it may or may not be true. Fear of unknown is not a reality, just at an imaginary level in your mind which your mind perceives it to be true but it is not.

5.        Fear of Change – this is a general mental attitude for many as we tend to be extremely in control of what we already know and do not want it to change. Because change means extra efforts your mind has to put in to be in the same level. It gives a fake sense of losing power. Example: jobs.

6.        Comfort Zone – What if you are watching a movie and it’s a very crucial scene going on; there some of your sibling comes and changes the channel or electricity goes off? Or you sleep on your bed and one particular day, you are told to sleep on the sofa? These are minor examples of disturbances, but there can be major ones too in many people’s life. This can be a cause of sleep disturbance too.

All these reasons create a different chemical reaction to your physical body, that you can feel the sensations. This results in the body to be uncomfortable and acts differently.

May reasons listed and now you may ask, I know these, but how to overcome the above? I am only concerned of good sleep that makes me fresh! I see a lot of people around me, who can sleep with end number of disturbances, physically and mentally. Why am I not able to sleep the same way and feel fresh the next morning?

That’s because the people have trained their mind to be comfortable in every situation. This can be related with not only sleep but for any situations.

For Example, I was told once by a person, that you are so calm and smiling everytime in every situation, (ofcourse not when there is a disturbed event where everyone is sad and I alone am smiling), he continued, let’s see how long in your life this smile continues. This was confirmed that the person’s blood was rising seeing me joyful and wanted to do something to disturb my life. Yeah, he did try a lot to disturb me mentally; it feels bad for a while. But I was an awakened soul and yet my smile and joy is maintained irrespective of what others do, till today and will be ever after. I sleep well and I have everything to live a perfect life.

What is important here? Practicing let go.. Don’t take things personally.. This reduces burden in your mind too..

The most important cause of not getting sleep is too many thoughts going on in your mind. As mentioned in my last article, we must not hold on to past or incessantly think about future. (to read my last article click on the link: https://meditateartyoga.blogspot.com/2020/06/where-is-my-mind-past-present-or-future.html )

This can happen with anyone, anytime and in any event. For Example: Work, Home, Friends, Random interactions, etc. To maintain the equipoise in every situation, this helps you to calm your mind and eventually have a fulfilled sleep.

How do you train your mind to have a healthy sleep?

Sleep is when your body is totally relaxed and your breathing becomes slow, that eventually calms down your mind and rejuvenates you for the next day.

Some techniques that can help you to sleep peacefully are:

1.         Deep Breathing while lying on bed

2.        Doing mindful activities during the day

3.        Meditate everyday

4.       Exercise for an hour or Yoga

5.        Keep off gadgets 1 hour before sleeping

6.        Eat your meals 3-4 hours before sleeping.

7.        A shower can relax and allow a good sleep

8.        Sometimes a lifestyle change is required (need to evaluate what works and what doesn’t work)

9.        Conserve your energy. Talk only what’s required and important for NOW. Practice let go.

The above list works for most of them to have a fulfilling deep sleep and you may not feel tired while waking up, but yet if you have a difficulty in sleep and unable to manage, please visit your local counselor for guidance. To contact me here’s the link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdB8JNiZVZxvxsk1tnlwbNEoylW8kGZpeY57GWRusTzZR3ROA/viewform & https://meditateartyoga.business.site/?m=true 

Write down in comments below, if you have faced this situation and how you overcame it or if you need any guidance.

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-         - MRS. KOMAL HEGDE